In this state Carcinosin appears to be similar to Natrum muriaticum, a remedy with which it shares some other symptoms as well.
There is, however, a different origin and a different quality concerning the ‘silent grief’ of Carcinosin. The Carcinosin grief has its source in a sense of weakness of the will – not wanting to confront others, not demanding, not asking for things – a propensity to accept rather than demand. The grief of Nat-m. or Ignatia, on the other hand, is often a deep feeling that comes from a grave loss of a loved one, a grief that constricts the emotions and does not allow the patients to express any feelings. Carcinosin people will also become resigned more easily and keep quiet because they are afraid to disturb others by their complaining. Actually, it is a state somewhat between Staphysagria and Nat-m. in this respect. Repression of emotions is something quite common in this type of Carcinosin case.
Submissive and Repressed
Fear of the rudeness of others is also frequent in Carcinosin patients of the first type. As their defences are compromised, they feel unable to face the aggressiveness of the world from the time they were a child. Children of this type are submissive, well behaved, easy to handle, over-adaptive. They appear to be very kind, very obedient, very helpful. These are the children that please their parents, though intelligent and sensitive parents will see the weak points in them and will worry and report this to the doctor, because they understand that this kind of submissiveness is ‘not normal’.
Carcinosin children of this type cannot express their own demands toward others, they cannot ‘hold their own’ at school with other children. They also are unable to express what they need and want from their parents, and therefore they may also appear suppressed by them. This behaviour is reinforced if the parents are actually not aware of the particular sensitivities of the child. These children have