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The Celle Seminars_Page 80

George Vithoulkas

see that her illness is a defense mechanism which enables her to survive and, in fact, spurs her to take action. She has to do something to save herself. What can she do? The answer lies in communication; she has to have some sort of communication with other people. She attempts this by going out and getting involved in social issues which she can then discuss with others. Her efforts are purely social, not the forbidden sexual advances that her husband perceives them to be. The patient needs something that will make her feel like a human being, and she finds this in human relations. She is simply trying to make contacts with other people outside of her marriage. The patient is trying to break through to other relationships in order to keep herself alive. That is the defense mechanism at work.
Sometimes it seems that we only know we are alive because we eat and drink and breathe, but these are only basic animal functions. In order to exist as a human being you have to have emotional contact; it is as important as food and also required on a daily basis. The only difference between emotional and physical nourishment is that if you don’t eat for a day or so, you merely become thinner but you can still be relatively happy. Of course, if you are denied food long enough, you’ll waste away. It’s the same with the >emotional body<: if you are denied human contact, your emotions shrinks and shrink until they disappear altogether. Given enough time, you’ll wind up feeling dead inside. That’s why people who have been deprived of human contact will often respond to questions about their emotional state by saying, »I feel dead inside.« This is what we see in psychotic states. The same thing happens when a person is deprived of human contact on a higher, more spiritual level. You cannot just say that everything is material because there always comes a time when you will need spiritual contact; without it you cannot truly feel alive. She does not want to die, and so her organism naturally leads her to seek human contact. She says to herself, »I need someone to talk to, but my husband’s jealousy doesn’t allow me any other companions.« For the patient and her husband, indeed her entire family, this situation is perceived as a conflict.

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