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George Vithoulkas

(G.V.): Give me an example of what was overemphasized. (H.): For me, it was like a triggering factor. Perhaps it was something in the kind of jealousy that started to arise at the time. For example, there was a meeting of the Presbyterians of the church set from 7:30 to 10:00 in the evening-
(F.P.): That’s not true, the meeting was open-ended. No one ever said that it would last specifically from 7:30 to 10:00 p.m. (H.): My wife had just gotten her driver’s license and she drove to the meeting. I thought that if the meeting finished at 10:00 p.m., she should be back by 10:30 p.m. However, this was not the case and naturally 1 became worried. It grew later—11:00 p.m.—and I became more and more worried. My wife had still not returned by the time I went to bed at 11:30 p.m. I was quite agitated because I couldn’t image what might have happened. So, I quickly threw some clothes on over my pyjamas, got into the other car, and drove to the hall. By the time I got there it was 11:45 p.m. and I could see that the meeting had finished ages ago. My wife was still talking to one of the Presbyters in the parking lot. All I did was signal to them that I was worried and that it was already 11:45 and couldn’t they stop at this point. I thought that they could have easily carried on their discussion at another time. That is all I did at the time, and then I got back into my car and waited. My wife kept me waiting for about a quarter of an hour; she didn’t tie up her discussion. I couldn’t really understand why she was treating me this way. This is an example of what I meant when I said that things had taken on other proportions, or had gotten out of proportion. I asked myself, how would I behave if my wife had come to collect me and I was in a conversation? I told myself that, whether as the wife or the husband, if someone had come to collect me and I could see that they were worried, my reaction would have been, » Well, I’ll stop at this point, we’ll talk some other time.« To emphasize my point, you should know that the discussion was just a mar¬ginal discussion, and the Presbyter she was talking to was a young, single man.

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