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George Vithoulkas

(G.V.): And then he calms down? (Mother): Yes.
(Father): We explain to him the problems with walking as fast as we do by saying that not everybody walks at the same speed, and not to worry about it.
(Mother): He does worry about that because he can see other children doing things that he apparently cannot do. (G. V.): Have you left him at all in a kindergarten? (Mother): Yes, he does go to kindergarten and he does have contact with other children, but he doesn’t seem to make contact with children on his own.
(Father): We said earlier that he doesn’t make contact easily. He does have a little girlfriend, but perhaps she is a little different from other children because she is asthmatic. They play together for hours. Although she has a brother, she prefers to play with our child; they seem to harmonize.
(G. V.): How did he react the first time you left him at kindergarten?
(Mother): At first I stayed with him, and then gradually I started to leave him there for longer periods.
(Father): He hasn’t been there very long. Of course, he cannot run around as wildly as the other children, so he has become more and more attached to his kindergarten teacher. It was quite a shock for us when we were told that he had an illness, and it was a bigger shock for us when we were told that the illness was incurable. Finding out that he was ill, incurably ill, made us tremendously depressed, but perhaps even worse, it was more like a physical blow because of the way we were told. We asked if there was any hope, and the doctor said quite matter-of-factly, » Well, there are some sicknesses that we can cure and others we can’t; you’ll just have to keep up with it.« The result has been that we’ve had to adjust. We’ve actually learned to cope with the illness and, if anything, we are living now more normally than before with our children. Perhaps we are doing more things with them and allowing ourselves more than we otherwise would have.

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