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The Celle Seminars_Page 302

George Vithoulkas

(F.P.): For the last few months there haven’t been any fights, but there were a lot before.
(G. V.): You used the plural form of partners. Do you have several husbands at the moment?
(F.P.): No, no, no! (laughs) It was just the same in my first marriage and in my second. (G. V.): Did you have any affairs in between? (F.P.): Yes. I only enjoyed this a short time; it brought back my self-confidence.
(G.V.): Because the first time you had problems? (F.P.): I had many problems.
(G. V.): And you decided finally to say good-bye to the marriage? (F.P.): Yes, I was the one who made the decision, it was too much. I am still very proud of myself for having made that decision. And above all I am proud of the fact that there was no one in the background who helped me come to that decision. I made the decision on my own.
(G.V.): How many years were you married? (F.P.): Seven years, and one child.
(G.V.): Can you tell me why you decided on a divorce? First, let me ask you something easier.
(F.P.): It would have been a good question to ask. (laughs) (G.V.): Was your first husband a very vivid person, or very closed?
(F.P.): As closed as I was. He was just the wrong man. But he was the first man who made me stand up to my parents, that impressed me. I was twenty-one years old at the time. I didn’t notice that I was going from one dependent relationship to another and that this was the main problem. When I finally realized that I had gotten into another dependent relationship, I just did not have the strength or ability to free myself again from that sort of relationship. I allowed myself to be taken over, and I still have that problem today. I always seem to have someone who takes me over, or I feel taken over by that person. (G. V.): Do you feel that when you have contact with someone, the contact is easily deepened?

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