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grief. What kind of grief? Now, what do you suppose causes such a deep grief in a child? I’m just putting things together logically; what may have happened?
(A.): The loss of something. (G. V.): A loss of what? (A.): Loss of love.
(G.V.): The most natural thing is that his grief stems from his parents’ divorce; so I am now going to inquire about the family situation. What was the situation around their divorce and separation? What happened a month ago when the child fell sick? This is the most important thing for me to find out, and that’s why I ask the questions I do. I see all these things as being connected – the sadness, the grief, and the disease – and this already gives me some hints as to possible remedies.
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(Therapist): He was outgoing. When he came in he was always able to answer his own questions, which is unusual for a child; we did very well with that.
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(G.V.): An intelligent child.
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(G.V.): Do you think he is afraid of anything?
(Mother): Yes.
(G.V.): Very much?
(Mother): Yes.
(G.V.): What is he afraid of?
(Mother): Maybe being by himself, being abandoned, being left alone.
(G.V.): If he wants somebody next to him, yourself or his father all the
time, does this mean that you have to hold his hand?
(Mother): No.
(G.V.): Just be there?
(Mother): Yes; I’m moving in and out of the room and all around, and
then I sit down and I’ll be right with him. I’ve been stroking him and
massaging his body.
(G.V.): Does he likes that?
(Mother): Yes, that seems to bring it out more when I…