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George Vithoulkas

(F.P.): No.
(G.V.): Do you tolerate your marriage because of the children, or do you still love your husband?
(F.P.): What does that mean, »Do you still love your husband*« To me he is a person with fears, innumerable fears. I see him as a man who built himself up, who acted out the role of a patriarch, and now he is faced with the fear of losing that. But I think you are really asking something else.
(G.V.): You two no longer have any sort of sexual relationship, is that correct?
(F.P.): I’ve been counseled, and the advice I’ve received is that I cannot continue in my marriage in this way. (G.V.): No, no, what I mean is, have you continued to have sexual intercourse with your husband? (F.P.): No. (G.V.): Since when?
(F.P.): Since October or November of last year. (G.V.): How often did you have intercourse before? (F.P.): Sporadically. Perhaps I should explain that my husband started accusing me of going out with other men. He said that every time we had sexual intercourse he would develop a rash on his penis, or some other problem. My husband claimed that I brought bad things into our marriage, and then he would insist upon having sexual relations with me. Of course, I did not particularly enjoy it under the circumstances. In fact, my husband went so far in his lunacy as to suggest that I had engaged in sexual intercourse with my children, more specifically, with my sons. In light of such horrible accusations, it is impossible to have a satisfactory sexual relationship. My husband constantly maintained that every time we had sexual intercourse he was being infected, and that was the worst thing of all. (G.V.): Did this hurt your feelings?
(F.P.): Of course. It would have been very foolish to continue sleeping with my husband, only to have him turn around two days later and accuse me of infecting him with some disease or another.

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