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George Vithoulkas

(F.P.): We are basically detached from one another. I’m no longer trying to be a companion to my husband. We are not acting our marriage out together.
(G.V.): During a crisis, do you use obscene words, bad words? (H.): Referring back to the question about the use of obscene words which my wife denied using, I would like to explain the use of obscene words in another way. I’d say the attacks are really kind of like the tip of an iceberg. Between icebergs there are drafts and waves of water, situations in which I do not get along well with my wife. During these times it does not matter whether I am patient or not, my wife does not really do anything for me. It is in situations like these that very often words are exchanged and language can be very unpleasant. (G.V.): What do you think about this?
(F.P.): You might be able to interpret my »obscene language« in a different way: My husband may very well think that I’m using obscene words, but perhaps they are just words that I use in defense of my husband’s periodical accusations. For example, when he says that I have relationships with other men, I may use expressions that are offensive to him specifically because I know he does not like them. These may not be specifically obscene words, just words he personally cannot stand.
(D.): My mother has always felt very controlled by my father. She is still very frightened of him and does not really like to be alone with him. He has always been the boss. She’s also afraid of bugs—microphones—in the wall, things like that. This may seem unrealistic, but there is a realistic background to it. (F.P.): I’m being realistic because the fact is, my husband is constantly checking up on me.
(G.V.): Do you feel that your husband is jealous of you? (F.P.): Yes, of course.
(G.V.): How much violence are you capable of? To what extent does your anger carry you? Do you break things, a lot of things? (F.P.): I’d have to say that during a crisis I don’t know what I do or how violent I become. You’ll have to ask my daughter what I do.

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