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Essence of Materia Medica – page 69

isfaction. One patient even changed doctors because she was con¬vinced that he did not understand her. He did nothing specific to offend her, but she said she would never go back to him; she reported, "He is a nice person, but he does not understand me," merely because he was not forceful enceh in backing up her own opinions.
This type of patient is very insistent upon her own point of view. She is always right, and she expects others to acknowledge that. During the interview in usual fashion, you listen quietly and sym-pathetically to what she has to say; you do not reply, but merely write down the symptoms in detail as she gives them to you. She wants you to believe her absolutely, however, so she feels unappreciated. When you begin to realise this, you reassure her that you do indeed believe what she is saying. She is very sus-picious. It takes a lot of serious reassurance on your part to gain her confidence enough for her to open up and describe her true state.
Arising out of the Dulcamara patient’s possessiveness is great anxiety about others. Her husband may be facing an important meeting at work, and she feels compelled to give him detailed instructions on how to behave, what to say, etc. This is not merely helpful advice, as Phosphorus might offer. Dulcamara insists that her opinions be followed, and she is disturbed if they are not. She insists that her son bot marry, or if he does he must marry the woman of her choice. She is a busy body. She suffocates others in her domination and possessiveness.
The Dulcamara state, as you can see, is very self-centred. It almost never crosses her mind that others also have rights and freedom of choice. She is tremendously attached to those around her. She demands that they do exactly what SHE wants.
In Dulcamara, the anxiety for others is an anxiety for the health of her relatives in. particular. This may be carried to such an extreme that she exaggerates trifles out of all proportion to real-ity. Little problems loom so large that they seem to create in her a kind of madness. This state is similar to Calc carb., but if you inquire into the meaning of her exaggerations you discover that it arises fundamentally out of her possessiveness.
During her interview, to take a concrete example, the Dulcamara patient may report to you with great forcefulness and anxiety